This is something I've been working on with the help of my therapist. I've been stuck in survival mode for so many years, I didn't even know what rest felt like until a few months ago. It's such a difficult concept for me to not be "productive".
Reading posts like this really supports the inner work I'm trying to do, so thank you for sharing. I really appreciate it.
Thank you for being candid, Debs! I resonate with your reflection about finding it difficult to understand the idea of not being productive. For me, this issue is widespread and I am included in it too. As I've explored it, I've realised that it stems from the belief that our value or worth derives from producing and doing. We feel that without it, we will not be seen or loved by others. This mode of living keeps you trapped in a constant state feeling like you need to be productive while completely overlooking the truth that simply being is enough.
As a society we have a long way to go on this particular challenge but by being open and exploring like we are doing here, it helps change the norm. Be well!
This brings up something I've been thinking about the last few days. I understand, and believe in being present ("when in the shower, be in the shower") and I strive for that BUT... those "mundane" times where it is easy to be on autopilot, are when inspiration and creativity comes from my wandering mind. Also with the letting thoughts just pass when meditating. Do you have any thoughts on reconciling this conflict? Or am I looking at it wrong? Thanks!
Hey Tania, love this reflection. Often, I have creative insights and sparks of inspiration in the shower. I want to highlight the word "wandering" in your comment. If your mind was "fixed" on a thought, it would prohibit the arising of insights because you'd be locked in on that one thought, but because you are freely allowing your thoughts to wander like clouds in the sky, you are creating room for those insights to arise. That has been my experience at least.
I want to ensure I respond appropriately to your second question. What exactly is the conflict you are experiencing in that situation?
Thanks for your reply! I guess the "conflict" is when I start exploring the insights that arise, then I'm not being in the shower anymore, or walking, cooking, driving... 😁 I'm focused on growing the insight.
Ahh, I get you. I guess it depends. If you feel energised and joyful exploring the ideas at that moment, don't feel bad about that. On the other hand, if you want to remain present in whatever it is you're doing when those insights pop up, what I tend to do is acknowledge the thought. "I see you and will explore further but not right now." (I say this to myself sometimes) and then turn my attention back to what I'm doing. Using the shower example, it could be turning my attention toward the sight of the flowing water or it's sound. You don't have to label them but just observe them.
The length of this article is perfect. Thanks for sharing Niall.
Appreciate your feedback Qi!
Absolutely. I spend a lot of time meditating on the idea of time. Loved your observations and insights on this. Here was my notes on it if you want to check it out. : https://meganyoungmee.substack.com/p/losing-time/comments
Thank you, Megan! I read your piece. I agree with you. Time has its practical uses but it does tend to control how we feel far too often.
This is something I've been working on with the help of my therapist. I've been stuck in survival mode for so many years, I didn't even know what rest felt like until a few months ago. It's such a difficult concept for me to not be "productive".
Reading posts like this really supports the inner work I'm trying to do, so thank you for sharing. I really appreciate it.
Thank you for being candid, Debs! I resonate with your reflection about finding it difficult to understand the idea of not being productive. For me, this issue is widespread and I am included in it too. As I've explored it, I've realised that it stems from the belief that our value or worth derives from producing and doing. We feel that without it, we will not be seen or loved by others. This mode of living keeps you trapped in a constant state feeling like you need to be productive while completely overlooking the truth that simply being is enough.
As a society we have a long way to go on this particular challenge but by being open and exploring like we are doing here, it helps change the norm. Be well!
This brings up something I've been thinking about the last few days. I understand, and believe in being present ("when in the shower, be in the shower") and I strive for that BUT... those "mundane" times where it is easy to be on autopilot, are when inspiration and creativity comes from my wandering mind. Also with the letting thoughts just pass when meditating. Do you have any thoughts on reconciling this conflict? Or am I looking at it wrong? Thanks!
Hey Tania, love this reflection. Often, I have creative insights and sparks of inspiration in the shower. I want to highlight the word "wandering" in your comment. If your mind was "fixed" on a thought, it would prohibit the arising of insights because you'd be locked in on that one thought, but because you are freely allowing your thoughts to wander like clouds in the sky, you are creating room for those insights to arise. That has been my experience at least.
I want to ensure I respond appropriately to your second question. What exactly is the conflict you are experiencing in that situation?
Thanks for your reply! I guess the "conflict" is when I start exploring the insights that arise, then I'm not being in the shower anymore, or walking, cooking, driving... 😁 I'm focused on growing the insight.
Ahh, I get you. I guess it depends. If you feel energised and joyful exploring the ideas at that moment, don't feel bad about that. On the other hand, if you want to remain present in whatever it is you're doing when those insights pop up, what I tend to do is acknowledge the thought. "I see you and will explore further but not right now." (I say this to myself sometimes) and then turn my attention back to what I'm doing. Using the shower example, it could be turning my attention toward the sight of the flowing water or it's sound. You don't have to label them but just observe them.
Wonderful distinction between productive and purposeful!
Thank you, John! It's a subtle shift but one that can profoundly change how you spend your time.
No time is dead time. When the mind wanders it is free to be inspired.